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TRUST....why is it so damn hard?



Trusting issues and jealousy basically go hand in hand.
When you do not trust in your own self as to how unique and important you are....you immediately feel less than and with that, insecurities rise up and jealousy is born. A true symptom of a lack of trust in yourself!
The only way to trust easily is to let yourself do so. It is easy once you understand why you are finding it so damn hard.

We are creatures of habit....habits are repetitive thoughts or actions that we fall into immediately because they are the last stored file in our thought patterns which end up being in the forefront of our brain. What this means is that the last thought or reaction stored will be the first one used when your emotions begin to rise in either a negative or positive response.

Habits are something that I talk about all of the time.
'Habit' is a very small word which carries so much reality and control over our positive and negative reactions and thoughts. The word 'habit' is also difficult to accept as what causes people to stay stuck in jealousy or insecure emotional traps.
It takes at least 14 days to break a habit, according to the latest researchers.
Now when I say that, I mean 14 days of consistent behavior, repeated over and over on the same subject matter.
That is why breaking an emotional habit is difficult. We do not run into fears and threats in a consistent manner.
We basically have to discipline ourselves into a self-talk therapy every day whether we are actually challenged with one of our fears or not. In doing this we must be prepared for 14 days of feeling very much on an emotional roller-coaster. This is exactly why so many people go to therapists for support in breaking negative emotional habits. It is not a simple task.
Silly analogy here but it seems to fit...think of a habit as pulling an end of a plastic electrical tie through its lock and then trying to pull it back. A very tough thing to accomplish, unless you work at it and stay committed to see it through to the end. It is not impossible but it is very challenging for most people.

We are still searching for the answers to questions such as....
Why is it so damn hard to trust?
Why is it so hard to feel good about yourself and your relationship any time and anywhere?

It is more so that, somewhere along the line you have fallen into a belief that you are not worthy of that relationship and you are in fear that at any second someone else will take over and replace you. Hence a low self-esteem or self-worth!

Trust is not about what another person may or may not do to you or that they observe another.

It is about:
- how safe you feel, being who you are.
- why you put yourself down.
- why you instantly compare yourself to another.
- why you feel the need immediately find a flaw in another that you feel threatened by.
- why your insides tighten and twist so that you find it hard to breathe at times.
- why you cannot accept a compliment at face value.
-why you look in the mirror and hate who you see.

Trust is all about YOU!

In order to battle and overcome one's insecurities in life,:
-you must feel secure in who you are and accept who you are.
-you must stop wanting to change what you cannot.
-you must learn to appreciate every little thing about who you are.
-you must focus on loving who you are.
-you must want to be happy about who you are.
-you must realize that every second that you dwell on unhappy thoughts...is life being wasted.
-you must learn that trust inside of you>

To be able to trust another and feel secure in a relationship...you must accept you, right now, this second.
Accepting who you are and allowing that thought to determine your life will in turn give you peace of mind.
You cannot control what another person is going to do, so why waste another second trying to through your own thoughts.
Accept that you are you and your partner is your partner.

Here are two very good thoughts to keep as your daily inspirations..

"To be Wronged is Nothing unless You continue to Remember It!"
"We don't see things as they are, we see things as we are!"


Remember...trust comes from within your own thoughts and self-acceptance.
Strengthen those and your life will be what it is meant to be and that is free of chaos and doubt!!

 
DorothyL@womensselfesteem.com
 

Posted: 10:25 AM, 7/13/2008
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Gloucester Teens Had Pact To Get Pregnant......

GLOUCESTER (WBZ) ― There's a stunning twist to the sudden rise in teen pregnancies at Gloucester High School. 17 students there are expecting and, according to a published report, most of them became that way on purpose.

Time Magazine is reporting that nearly half of the girls confessed to making a pact to get pregnant and raise their babies together. None of the girls is older than 16.
Principal Joseph Sullivan said that wasn't all that was shocking.
"We found out one of the fathers is a 24-year-old homeless guy," he told Time.
Last month, two top officials at the high school's health center resigned in a fight over contraceptives distribution.
Medical Director Dr. Brian Orr and chief nurse practitioner Kim Daly support confidentially giving contraceptives to students. They were outraged about resistance from Addison Gilbert Hospital, which administers the state public health grant that funds the school clinic.
Normally, the school has about four pregnancies per school year.
According to Time, school officials started looking into the spike in pregnancies after an unusual number of girls came to the school clinic for pregnancy tests. Some came by several times.
"Some girls seemed more upset when they weren't pregnant than when they were," Sullivan told the magazine.
The pregnant girls and their parents turned down requests to be interviewed.
A recent graduate who had a baby during her freshman year told Time she knows why the girls wanted to get pregnant.

"They're so excited to finally have someone to love them unconditionally," Amanda Ireland, 18, said. "I try to explain it's hard to feel loved when an infant is screaming to be fed at 3 a.m."

(© MMVIII, CBS Broadcasting Inc. All Rights Reserved.)


NOTE****I have sourced the story and this particular story was fabricated out of typical media hype . I have left the story up because it may have a different set of numbers and letters but if you check out this link or talk to the public you will find...fact....there is a huge rise in teen pregnancies and a lot of these girls are having babies to fill a void they feel can only be filled with a child of their own where in fact they can receive an unconditional love!
http://womensissues.about.com/od/teenpregnancy/tp/TeenPregnancyHub.htm

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Hmmmm....

Licenses are mandatory to hunt for animals and fish...but anyone can bring an innocent child to this earth without any question.

For heaven sakes...you cannot even adopt a pet these days without proper identification and license.

The article above just adds to my concerns and my utter shame of what is happening out there to our young people. Where does this need to find unconditional love come from?

Is it from their upbringing, their family dynamics....unless we live with these girls, will we ever know exactly what has caused this void inside of them.

It is true that any new cool idea does spread like wild fire and a good majority of those people tend to be   followers. "They know not, what they are doing" and have no real reason for their actions. But there is an original person with a definite reason for starting this type of trend. Maybe even many.

What is going to happen to these young children when the mother has no idea how to care and nurture for this child brought into this world to be her companion? That is exactly what it is all about.

An innocent child, brought to this world for all the wrong reasons with a mind that will be twisted and controlled to be the mother's own little puppet or companion.

This is not the answer in finding an unconditional love. If a person does not love themselves inside unconditionally, they will never have the freedom to be loved by or to love anyone else unconditionally .

The only reason these girls are doing this is because they can! I have to say that I deem this as a form of child abuse.

This should be outlawed and a new set of rules should be written up to protect unborn children.
We fight abortion every step of the way, but we turn a blind eye to these  under aged girls as they determine that they are for to be a parent for the reasons of needing an unconditional love companion.

I know that some of you reading this will shake your heads and question, "who am I to make such a statement?"

I am a person that cares enough to try to reach out and make a difference in this world before it is totally corrupt. I have also raised 4 children of my own and I can tell you from experience that the mother in most cases is the one responsible for that child. The fathers will not stay at home while the mother goes out dancing or partying with their girlfriends. Nor will they relish in the idea of getting up with a sick child that cries for hours and hours. Most of the families do not want to be responsible for that child either, they have their own lives to live.

Are there not already enough babies left behind or dumped in garbage dumpsters like they are nothing more than a litter of unwanted kittens?

Are there not enough children in orphanages and foster care because the mother could not care for her child that she wanted so badly to fill that void of unconditional love?

How many grandmothers are out there today that have already raised their own children and  are now becoming custodial parents of their grandchildren due to the inability of the mother or father responsibility?

I have spent time looking at video's in regards to supporting teen moms...I have talked to many young mothers to be, and I am not so closed minded that I do not commend those young mothers that are responsible and have been taught how to be a committed parent or partner. I am the first person to be amazed and to give compliment on what a young person can do and can carry through.

The saying, "Babies having Babies", definitely does send a message, unfortunately the young girls do not want to hear it and that is another sign of immaturity.

I too was very young when I had my first child and I too was the one that stayed at home night after night and day after day because I was raised in a home that strongly catered to this saying, "You made your bed, you lay in it". My child's father was too young and too concerned with his needs and his socializing to understand his role as a parent at that age.

It is not that I am against young mothers at all, it is the reason for the pregnancies that are becoming a trendy thing, so to speak. Which is what is very scary.

If it is unconditional love that these girls are looking for, then maybe our education system should be looking into some type of self-esteem courses that are mandatory right from grade school and up.

I will continue expressing my concerns in regards to these young mothers that consider having a baby an answer to their inner emptiness.

Today I have shared enough thoughts and I hope that even one young girl will be reached by my message here today.

Please understand that there are many reasons to have a child and there are many to not have a child!

Live your life as it is meant to be lived!

Enjoy your youth as it will not return a second time!


 
DorothyL@womensselfesteem.com



Posted: 9:57 AM, 6/19/2008 in Self-esteem
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D's Newsletter for JUNE~

June 2008 Newsletter 

In This Issue
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Welcomes in JUNE 2008!


spring
                                 
Good Day to all of you lovely women.
It's that time of the year again when we start to get anxious to work in the yard, take longer walks, simply just get outside and smell the roses!
All of the leaves are beginning new growth and the buds are starting to sprout.
Catalogues and commercials are selling summer colors and beautiful summer dresses. I personally never, ever feel like wearing a dress until the weather becomes warm and summery.
June is the month that we all celebrate Father's Day.
To all those dad's out there......
HAPPY FATHER"S DAY!!!
Kids are getting ready for their school breaks and now we will have more things to plan and for sure more groceries to buy.
Its beach time and family picnic time and we all know what that means. It means tuck it in and get out the healthy low calorie recipes for the picnics.
Actually ladies there are so many very cute swim suits and summer dresses out now that are designed for us who have a bit more than we use to around the body. So fear not, take a few hours and browse through the new styles in the stores.
Instead of getting yourself all down in the dumps about your body image..buy a nice cover up outfit. Look for summery colors and even a new hair do will make you feel like you are ready for summer fun.

Keep your thoughts as light & as bright as the colors of summer!


Dorothyl@womensselfesteem.com

Self-esteem Thoughts
AS I mentioned in my introduction summer is in the air and the social events are all geared around less clothing and more family gatherings and food!
So beware of those fast foods that we toss into the picnic baskets and also beware of the sun and the damage it does do to your skin.
Now that we are getting longer days of light and warmer nights...it is time to take advantage of it and walk a few extra steps.
Nothing feels better after dinner than a walk around a few blocks.
That does not mean that we forget about our daily exercises, that means that we take advantage of the day and add to our normal schedule. If you are bothered by your body image, the only way to cure that besides of course my suggestions on changing your negatives into positives is to also exercise off those few extra pounds that seem to make you want to hide away in the closet.
You all know that those bathing suits never seem to fit quite like they did last year and we always allow it to drag down our confidence. Let's get smarter and not just older !
Now that we have taken care of our food, our skin and our body image, lets talk about our inner selves for a bit.
Most all my thoughts that I share with you are directed towards positive thinking. Sometimes I feel like there is no end to explaining how to win the positive thinking battle.
Here is a list of how to overcome some of those emotional barriers:

Emotional Barriers!!!
You can Improve your emotional life with these simple strategies.

-Make an effort to think positive: It is not the point of whether you feel positive now...make yourself think positive and I promise you that it will help you feel better, as well as others around you.
-Give religion a try: Even if you're into spirituality, try becoming more involved with religion to improve your emotional well-being.
-Stop taking things personally: It is not always directed at you: Try not to take everything so personally!
-SLEEP...SLEEP..:This is a mother natures cure-all!
-Take a walk on the wild side: Make it a point to step out of your comfort zone once in awhile. Try it...what have you got to loose?
-Clean out the old and bring in the new when we talk about clothing: I mentioned a blurb about the right fit in the first part of this letter..tailor what you just cannot replace and but things that will make you feel good about you!
-Hang out with the young at heart: Children see life through unfiltered eyes.Look at the world through a child's eyes and get inspired.
-Facials..pedicures and massages are a must in our life of stress and crazy busy schedules.:
-Celebrate your successes: When you've accomplished something, embrace that moment and  feel good about it!
-Do you have a goal for today?? Why Not??
-Confidence is like wild fire.  Make a decision to improve your self-confidence, and you'll feel better. Others will notice it, too.
-Remember the small stuff and be thankful for them.
-Cut yourself some slack: Avoid inventing your own impossible, stringent rules that you have to stick to-they'll only make you feel nervous and guilty.
-Let go of the past: Don't hold grudges-let go, and you'll free up emotional space.
-Don't be dramatic: Stop inflating small problems, or you'll make yourself more anxious than you need to be.
-Get to know your inner self: Let your emotions come out through art, writing, or other forms of expression.
-Who are you? Meditate: Take some time out every day to have an inner dialogue with yourself.

~D~

Self-esteem & feel Good Videos!

Here are few very positive videos to start off your day and your year with!      Please click the links and enjoy!


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Enya-Waterfall
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Deep Meditation Experience
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Havasupai Indian Waterfall Relaxation
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Calming Pictures!

                                  

                                  

                                  
Quotes

.A perfect summer day is when the sun is shining, the breeze is blowing, the birds are singing, and the lawn mower is broken.
-- James Dent
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Dirty hands, iced tea, garden fragrances thick in the air and a blanket of color before me, who could ask for more?
-- Bev Adams.

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I wonder what it would be like to live in a world where it was always June.
-- L. M. Montgomery

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You can never appreciate the shade of a tree unless you sweat in the sun.-- Author Unknown

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Yellow butterflies look like flowers flying through the warm summer air.
-- Andrea Willis
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                            HATS & EYEGLASSES

                            SILENT VICTIM RUNNING FREE


Posted: 5:46 AM, 6/11/2008 in Self-esteem
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