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Darling Nikki....

I met this girl Nikki on Myspace. I wasn't really looking to meet anyone but she contacted me and we started writing each other back and fourth. She seemed like a nice person and I guess she still is but I wish she had been more honest with me. She wrote to me and asked if I wanted to call her. Our emails had been going well so I said sure and sent her my cell phone number and home phone and she sent me hers. I called her when I got in later that night and we were having a pretty good conversation until all of a sudden she decided to drop a bomb on me. 6 years ago Nikki was in a car accident and is confined to a wheelchair for the rest of her life.

Call me shallow but jeez what a fucking turn off. She says she didn't tell me because so many people judge her by her chair instead of what kind of person she is inside but I felt tricked. Being in a wheelchair is a huge fucking thing to omit from over 20 emails that 2 people swapped back and forth. She really wanted me or somebody to fuck her and I thought that it just wreaked of desperation but she was so lonely and I couldn't just hang up on her. I stuck it out and it was a pretty good conversation but I just didn't feel it would work out. She emailed me again and I decided to tell her the truth. I felt lied to and thought that she should have mentioned her situation before hitting on me and inviting me to call her. I wrote her back and said we could still be friends but that it was too much for me to handle and that in the future she should be upfront with all the guys she meets online. She disagreed but when we talked she mentioned that she kept getting rejected so I would think that she should consider changing tactics and putting the fact that she is disabled in her profile. Talk about it, be upfront and don't hide anything or she's going to keep sitting there alone waiting for some loser to take pity on her and fuck her.

I'm willing to be judged by all of you out there but I think I make a valid point. If you are on an online dating site and you were missing a leg but otherwise attractive would you be honest and tell people about it in your profile or would just contact the person and get their hopes up and then all of a sudden go "Surprise! I'm missing a leg!"? I'd wager that if you do the latter it won't go over well with most people something I learned the hard way a few years ago so now I put everything out there. Are you broke? Tell them! Live with your Momma? Tell them! If you don't it will bite you in the ass in the end.

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{ 10:30 PM, January 13, 2007 } { Posted by frankieandjenn }

Loved the blog.

agree

{ 1:55 PM, January 14, 2007 } { Posted by mcwj86 }

i understand your situation of feeling lied to..not tat i went tru it..but yes, i agree with u...