Life In My Empty Nest

Abortion: Legal Child Abuse

I consider abortion a form of child abuse. I know that may be a stretch for some. Get over it. I don't sit on the fence when the life of a child is hanging in the balance.

The words pro-choice make the hairs on the back of my neck stand on end. Why not call a duck, a duck? Pro-choice means pro-abortion. I am pro-choice in all things in my life. I can choose to get up in the morning and have control over my behvior thereafter. The only valid choice other than adoption comes before conception not after.

                                        6-7 week old aborted baby

What has abortion got to with choices? Hmmm, lets see. For one, close your damn legs and stop having sex with men that are not your husband. This goes for you too men, boys, all the same when you let your penis lead your life. Stop bringing home random girls for sex, banging their brains out and sending them on their merry way. These GIRLS, not women, could have STDs and let your legacy live on without your consent or knowledge. How proud your mother would be!

I want to tell you the story of a CHILD. She was a rebellious teen. She hated her parents for being so strict. Her mother once threatened to attend class with her if she didn't stop 'cutting' class. Her mother would of showed up in a robe, slippers and coffe in hand. She would of attended class with her all day if need be. Taking off work would of been a bitch but the life of your child is worth it!

This child would sneak out at night. First offense her mother was wainting in pajamas on the front lawn with a 5 million candle power light to flash in the car. The child's shoes were taken away, window nailed shut and house alarm set at night. She borrowed shoes from her friends, pried the window open and had cut the alarm system to her window. Her bedroom door was taken off the hinges, makeup and favorite clothes taken away. Now keep in mind, these parents also involved others outside the home to help this CHILD.

The child's next move was to run away with her boyfriend. She was sixteen and still a CHILD. After much detective work, three weeks later, her mother located her. God, what a relief to find your CHILD. She was home but she didn't come home alone. She was pregnant.

Now in the state of California, you cannot force a minor CHILD to give up their CHILD They are at that point emacipated.  Babies raising babies. This CHILD was my oldest daughter. My husband and I then decided, if she wasn't giving the baby up for adoption, she was NOT going to live with or get married to her boyfriend. It  would be over my cold lifeless body.  I didn't even know the kid but I had a fury in me that wanted to spew bad words, even a 'F' bombs at him. Don't get me wrong, I was just as pissed at her. 

They were not going to play house. I also was not going to have my grandson being raised away from a strong male role model. My daughter stayed with us. I am going to blow sunshine up your ass and say all was good in the world. We fought and still had the same problems we had before she got pregnant.

At the time, she had this delusion that her boyfriend was going to be supportive *buzzzer*. He denied paternity. His mother called me to tell me to make my daughter get an abortion. *buzzzzer*. Abortion was not a option for my daughter. That was her choice in life when she spread her legs. At least she listened to that growing up. I just wish sex out of wedlock would of stuck too.   

She had 'friends', and I use the term loosely, using abortion as birth control. She would come home crying because they would share this information with her. We, as a family thought taking her to a different situation might be a better option. She went to an alternative school for pregnant teens. I was horrified at what I saw there. There were twelve year old babies having babies. What does a 12 yr old know about raising a baby? What is a 12 yr old doing having sex? I fear our nation has become a nation of poor parenting with lack of supervision for pre-teens and teens. SOme parents do not give a shit.  They are so wrapped up in their life that they fail to notice their child drowning.  Unfortunately, our daughter swam away from the life vest. 

My daughter had a bouning baby boy and graduated. Our grandson Dominic is the light of my life. He and his mother lived at our home for 5 years. He and his Papa are very close. That is the ADULT role model I was talking about. Dominic's father was sporatically involved but always had us, his mother, nana and papa. Continuity in his little world. I grew to know his father and decided he would grow to be a good man. For now though, they were NOT going to marry.

My daughter and her on again, off again boyfriend faught over thier son at times. I could see my daughter on this emtional rollercoaster of being a teen parent and having a deadbeat dad situation going on.

When my daughter was twenty-one she came to me and said, "I am so tired of fighting with ***. I prayed last night that God would just help us get along for the sake of our son." I almost fell off my chair. She was finally getting it. I was hoping *** was too. They were still so young. She had also lost her bestfriend, Dennis, in a tragic motorcycle accident. He had been very close to her. I think this set in motion the wheels of deep thought.

We were having a garage sale about nine months later. My daighter went with me to hang out signs.  She said she had something to tell me. She began to cry. I looked at her and said, "OMG, you're pregnant." She then told me that she and *** had been secretly dating all that time. He had told her he could not imagine the thought of the mother of his son being with anyone else.  Save the awws for now O.K.

She also told me they planned to marry. They were so young. My grandson's life was hanging in the balance. How is he going to react at being taken from the only home he has known for the last five years? What kind of dad was *** going to be? My daughter was an adult and I could not tell her what to do. We, hubby & I, felt helpless.

They were married and moved to a home of their own. We have to say, we could not have asked for a better son-in-law. He is an awesome provider, loving husband and father. He dotes on my daughter. When they visit I see him petting my daughter's hair. They are still so in love. I am glad for that.  O.K., now you can say  awwww.  My daughter is a stay at mom.  She did go to a college program and graduated with a 4.0. They had three beautiful little ones. 

Things could of turned out differently if my husband and I had not stepped in. I could play the what if game and blame myself for not sitting on top of her. Things have come to light that may have affected her very early in life. I now understand but cannot change the past. You go forward.

Think twice about sex before marriage and the responsibility of having a child out of wedlock would bring. In destroying that life you could be destroying a person that could contribute greatly to humanity. What if they are meant to impact the world in some meaningful way? Then you decide to suck them down a sink. What if YOU were the one that could of been aborted? I think that puts it in a bigger perspective.

Think, think, think about your actions. Think about the consequences of your actions. There are many choices. You are in control of them all.

Your baby's heart began beating at 18-25 days. His or her brain waves could have been recorded at 40 days

After 11 Weeks: Your baby squints, swallows and can make a fist. Your baby has fingerprints, and can kick - and is sensitive to heat, light, touch and noise.

Your baby is sucking his or her thumb, weighs 1 ounce and is 2 1/2 to 3" long, and would fit comfortably in the palm of your hand.

The Rose

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