Life In My Empty Nest

I read in my local paper  a group of scientists found that abusers withheld or hid their partners birth control.  They also discovered said abuser wanted to keep their partner pregnant and in a vulenrable state.  Also,  they, these scientists were just astounded to discover that these abusers would try to control these young women in such a manner. All I have to say to that is DUH! with a big slap upside the head to eash one of those scientists.  I could of told them that.  Why haven't they been reading my or Dorothy's blogs?
This study was conducted at a clinic where I had worked.  This clinic is a high risk clinic for teens and drug abusers.   The study was made up of teens. 
Ladies,  how many times has your abuser used things in your life to control you? I know mine did.  That is the only way for you to buy into his load of bull.  My exhusband raped me before I could get a diaphragm in place.  That is how baby number two came along.  Baby number one was a booboo baby.  She was supposedly made out of love.  He had me hook line and sinker.  My family too.  My dad started catching on to what  was going on.  He recognized the signs in me.  After all, he had abused my mom.   He told my exhusband that one I would grow up and leave him.  So what did he do?  He moved me three states away.  That is another control issue.  Isolate the victim from her family and resources.  That is no accident.  He took me away from my family and I had no one to turn to.
I remember one Sunday morning getting ready for church.  I had my little one yr old.  I was huge and pregnant.  The pastor of the church was picking me up.  Our car had broke down.  I cannot tell you what I did wrong but he began to hit me.  He had me pinned up against the wall when my pastor walked up.  He came to my defense. My husband backed down.  He would not dare hit a man of God.  Go Figure!
I did not leave for a long time after that.  He had me very depend on him.  Many beatings, berating and emotional break down.  It was like being in a concentraiotn camp.  Only thing it lacked was the heavy metal music. Stokholm Syndrome rings bells too. Everyone thinks its so easy to walk away.  I know its not but you have to pick yourself up and flee like the wind.